Self-care is something I think a lot about these days. I think it’s easy to think that putting effort into your appearance when you’re a mother, and perhaps especially when you’re a stay-at-home-mother, is pointless, frivolous, and vain. But I realized recently that I was putting so little effort in, at least when I was just at home for the day, that it was actually starting to have a negative impact on my emotional well-being. I felt like I never looked nice and that I looked old and unattractive. Realizing that I felt that way made me wonder if reasonable effort in that department might more usefully be thought of as self-care. There’s no point in kicking yourself when you’re down, and I’ve found that devoting just a tiny bit more time to myself can make a huge impact on how I feel, which impacts how I am able to care for my children. The following are ideas I came up with to help myself feel better. However, if this isn’t your sort of thing or doesn’t make you feel better, then please ignore this particular post. I have no desire to add to or be a part of the pressure put on women regarding their looks. I certainly don’t think women should wear makeup or take part in other beauty or grooming exercises beyond the necessities if they don’t want to. This is just a post about what helps me feel a bit better and if it is helpful for you, then that is great.
Invest in some cute at-home clothes/loungewear. I like having at-home clothes because it means that my nicer going out clothes stay clean and last longer because they don’t have to be laundered quite as frequently (which is a help if you have a small wardrobe). I also wear more comfortable things at home like yoga pants and leggings. Look for things that you can answer the door in or even run an errand in without feeling embarrassed.
Put on just a little makeup, even if it’s just BB cream and mascara. Having cheap stuff for everyday use or days you stay at home might be a good option if you feel like you don’t want to use up your pricier stuff when no one else is even going to see it.
Splurge on some nice bar soap. Bar soap tends to be cheaper than shower gel and have less in the way of environmentally unfriendly packaging. I find that a nice shower that smells lovely is a great mood improver and morale booster.
Paint your toenails. I don’t know why, but this is a huge mood booster for me (although it has to be a cheery color).
These little things can really make a difference for my mood. Let me know what you think and please share your ideas in the comments!